Ask the Therapist | Therapist Insight
Many people grow up with the belief that love has to be earned, through being helpful, performing, staying “good,” or not needing too much. If you relate to that, you’re not broken. This is often a learned survival strategy that… Continue Reading →
There’s a moment that comes up often in therapy. Someone pauses, almost second-guessing themselves, and says: “I know this isn’t a big deal… but my reaction feels huge.” And almost immediately, there’s a layer of shame that follows. A sense… Continue Reading →
One of the most common pieces of advice people hear when they’re overwhelmed is simple and well-intentioned: “You just need to rest.” And yet, for many people, slowing down doesn’t feel relieving at all. It feels uncomfortable. Restless. Sometimes even… Continue Reading →
A question I’m often asked: “Why do I feel overwhelmed even when nothing is technically wrong?” This is one of the most common and most misunderstood experiences I hear about. Many people assume that overwhelm only makes sense when something… Continue Reading →
Every January, the same conversation seems to surface, both in therapy sessions and in quiet moments of self-reflection: Do New Year’s resolutions actually work? Or do they just set us up to feel discouraged by February? As a therapist, I… Continue Reading →
The holidays are often described as warm, joyful, and filled with connection. And for some people, that’s true. But for many others, the season arrives carrying grief, stress, loneliness, financial pressure, or complicated family dynamics. When life already feels heavy,… Continue Reading →
Dear Readers, As therapists, we often remind others to slow down, breathe, and reconnect with what matters. But in my own life, especially during the busyness of the holiday season, I realized I needed to take that same advice. I… Continue Reading →
Dear Therapist, Why do I always feel like I’m not enough? I push myself so hard, try to be perfect in every role at work, at home, in relationships, yet I still feel like I’m falling short. How do I… Continue Reading →
Dear Therapist, I was in a 5 year long relationship that was unhealthy from all aspects and now I’m recognizing how toxic it really was. The first 1 year was good but after it went downhill and I am finally… Continue Reading →
Dear Therapist, I feel like I’m behind my friends in life. Every time I look, someone’s gotten a promotion, advanced their degree, is getting married, or having their first kid. What’s wrong with me? I think I’m trying but… Continue Reading →